11/28/2013 4 Comments
Things not to say at the Thanksgiving dinner table:
Paula = "You're not my real Mom, you're my adoptive Mom".
I can't even remember the context of the conversation cause it threw me for a loop. Yes, she's being factual, but it HURT! I was surprised with my reaction to it....a huge blow to the heart.
When I took Paula and Nic with me to return some movies....I brought to Paula's attention that I was hurt by her comment. I don't think I was supposed to do that being the wiser parent and all, but I wanted to talk about it with them....explaining to them that I prefer they refer to their "real" Mom as the "Birth Mom".
Nic = "Mom, don't worry about it. You are the only Mom that I know and love more than any toy in the world. I mean....I don't even remember the lady who digested me."
Nic = "I know that she had to give us up because she didn't have enough materials to take care of us.....were we homeless?"
I don't think I will be as strong as I thought when they get older and want to find their REAL parents.
12/2/2013 05:53:49 am
You tell Miss P that I am her REAL aunt!
jimmy, your real cousin
12/4/2013 03:05:31 am
awww... i'd be devastated too. well i guess it depends on her context or the way she said it... like if she said it in anger vs just stating facts, thereby using the wrong words. anyways, still hurtful. *hug*
REAL Mom :)
12/6/2013 03:47:00 am
She was jsut being factual...but yeah...to hear it out loud sucked!
12/16/2013 10:53:50 pm
Ma-au durut si pe mine vorbele lui Paula si vreau s-ai spun ca pentru mine MAMA ADEVARATA este aceia care CRESTE copii(deci tu RACHEL), nu aceia care dintr-un motiv s-au altul da copii pentru ADOPTARE.M-am considerat si ma consider BUNICA ADEVARATA pentru ei de cum am auzit ca incercati s-ai adoptati(inainte de ai cunoaste).Te iubesc Paula ca pe NEPOATA MEA ADEVARATA.Va iubesc pe toti la fel de mult,bunica si mama.
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